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walkitoutMonths ago, I negotiated some changes around here in terms of who is responsible for what. There has been mixed success, which is better than nothing and also definitely not good enough.
So today, I’m making further changes. We’re going to double down on the create checklist for A. thing which we tried, did okay at, and I abandoned because it was a lot of work for me and the gains were decreasing. I’m going to try to transition the task to her to manage.
We’re also going to lean into get to bed early through the 3 day weekend, with night time routine starting at 8 pm with a goal of in and down and quiet at 10 pm. We’re also going to move her Dot and set up an alarm to get her up in the morning so she doesn’t slide later and create jetlag by Monday. If 8 pm doesn’t get her in and down and quiet at 10, we’re going to move one hour earlier each night until we find what does. And then we are going to document the length and content of the night time routine and share it with relevant supports, because honestly, people need to know this is what is going on. If you just look at academic performance, and don’t see this, the picture is really incomplete.
I have already shared a bunch of the various selfcare/ADR stuff with the therapist, because she didn’t know and she really should.
I’m going to also actively include A. in more weekend activities. The car needs to be washed, because it is really dirty but also because the dirt on the outside of the car reinforces A.’s desire not to touch anything. We can go do that together. While we are over there, we can stop at Trader Joe’s and pick up some stuff there. We mostly don’t like to fight through the effort of getting her ready to leave the house unless it is school or travel, and we probably need to get her out more often than that.
Yesterday, R. took down the alabaster bowl pendants from above the dining tables (in the dining room and the eat in part of the kitchen) and boxed them up. Today, they are at the new house being installed now. Woot! They are also going to put the rainbow light up in his room. The Ziba pendant will wait a bit longer to be installed. He also programmed a whole lot of switches.
He put the budding branch lights up here as replacements, and they look really nice and match the rooms well and by matching each other create a little thematic cohesion in the space.
Also! I ordered a sample of the Forbo Harlekino Sotto a couple days ago and got a FedEx notification about it today. Which was NOT expected! But cool. We’ll see if it genuinely materializes.
So today, I’m making further changes. We’re going to double down on the create checklist for A. thing which we tried, did okay at, and I abandoned because it was a lot of work for me and the gains were decreasing. I’m going to try to transition the task to her to manage.
We’re also going to lean into get to bed early through the 3 day weekend, with night time routine starting at 8 pm with a goal of in and down and quiet at 10 pm. We’re also going to move her Dot and set up an alarm to get her up in the morning so she doesn’t slide later and create jetlag by Monday. If 8 pm doesn’t get her in and down and quiet at 10, we’re going to move one hour earlier each night until we find what does. And then we are going to document the length and content of the night time routine and share it with relevant supports, because honestly, people need to know this is what is going on. If you just look at academic performance, and don’t see this, the picture is really incomplete.
I have already shared a bunch of the various selfcare/ADR stuff with the therapist, because she didn’t know and she really should.
I’m going to also actively include A. in more weekend activities. The car needs to be washed, because it is really dirty but also because the dirt on the outside of the car reinforces A.’s desire not to touch anything. We can go do that together. While we are over there, we can stop at Trader Joe’s and pick up some stuff there. We mostly don’t like to fight through the effort of getting her ready to leave the house unless it is school or travel, and we probably need to get her out more often than that.
Yesterday, R. took down the alabaster bowl pendants from above the dining tables (in the dining room and the eat in part of the kitchen) and boxed them up. Today, they are at the new house being installed now. Woot! They are also going to put the rainbow light up in his room. The Ziba pendant will wait a bit longer to be installed. He also programmed a whole lot of switches.
He put the budding branch lights up here as replacements, and they look really nice and match the rooms well and by matching each other create a little thematic cohesion in the space.
Also! I ordered a sample of the Forbo Harlekino Sotto a couple days ago and got a FedEx notification about it today. Which was NOT expected! But cool. We’ll see if it genuinely materializes.