Sunday: this post might be long
Sep. 29th, 2024 12:05 pmR. and I went out to dinner at Less Than Greater Than and I had a couple drinks (Vieux Carre and a Lioness — both really yum) and then stopped at Medusa and came home. Delightful.
I slept for a while, but then woke up and was really feeling very hot (this happens sometimes when I have a couple drinks and a meal with a lot of protein— I get really, really thermogenic). Since I’d slept in pretty late and wasn’t really short on sleep overall, I figured I’d just read for a while, which was honestly extremely blissful. I did eventually get several more hours of sleep — yes, I’m sure that my circadian rhythm at this point is well and truly fucked — and woke up feeling pretty good. I got some breakfast, and fed A. some too, and then I decided to do a little poking around on the topic of 80s era bulletin boards. NO not Compuserve or Prodigy. The ones made of actual cork, that people cut out Farside from the newspaper and put up using push pins or tacks.
I’m interested in this, because I was trying to explain memeposting and/or shitposting and why people do it. Why was I trying to explain this? Because for the second time (at least) in my life, my sister had developed a parasocial relationship online with one of my friends and then gotten mad at the friend. The first time she did this, she called the school where my friend worked and reported my friend for what she had been posting on social media. My friend’s boss knew exactly what she was doing, and my friend was not breaking any rules (I became a temporary, mini-expert on FERPA at the time) so my friend was fine, but I was horrified. When I realized this was ramping up again with a different friend, I decided to try to first warn the friend (who has had randos online go weird at her before; this is not her first rodeo) and then try to understand what was going on with my sister. (The friend has adjusted her social media settings WRT my sister in a way that should reduce everyone’s risk of bad behavior, and has been extremely gracious about the whole thing.)
With my sister, the issue seems to have been a straightforward combination of the changing of the seasons and overwork, and is improving as she has taken a weekend to go have some IRL fun. But as I spoke to her before the weekend, I explained that what the friend was doing was memeposting / shitposting, and my sister’s response to engage with the reposted post-and-comments about C. S. Lewis and the Susan problem was socially extremely inappropriate, and the feelings that the Susan problem and Lewis remarks engendered in my sister for herself and about her children were based on bunch of important misunderstandings. I think my sister believed me about the important misunderstandings (we all know we are autistic, and subject to these types of errors) however I was unsuccessful in answering her question about why do people memepost / shitpost. I compared it to Back in the Day when people cut comics out of newspapers and posted them on corkboards, but she claimed never to have encountered that. That is obviously not possible, however, it is completely probable that she failed to notice the boards (very, very believable that she failed to notice or comprehensively forgot them).
Here is an entertaining little post about The Far Side and those cork boards in particular.
https://www.everything80spodcast.com/the-far-side/
Today, I found this explanation which I think captures at least some of why people memepost / shitpost.
https://racuned.substack.com/p/i-tried-shitposting-for-a-week-and
Basically, boredom leads to shitposting / memeposting, a dopamine hit from people engaging with the meme / shit post rewards having done that, and an awareness that this is a relatively easy way to grow an audience results in more directed effort to shit post / meme post “better”. It’s just like being the class clown.
But hilariously, at no point in this entire process did it occur to me to point out, uh, hey, you understand why the online forums were originally called “bbs” or “bulletin board system”, right? I mean, it’s just like those fucking cork boards.
Which she ignored.
Which she forgot.
Which she is participating in now, in kind of the same way that people back in the day would occasionally post on the cork board a detailed debunking of whatever urban legend someone had photocopied and tacked up.
Was Lewis queer? Oh, hell yeah. Did he have good / any / positive relationships with women? Evidence suggests otherwise. Is “attacking” Lewis for how he treated the Susan character in Narnia attacking queer people generally, or attacking “men” as a category? No. Is my friend posting memes and shit posts about toxic masculinity a generalized attack on “men” or “masculinity”? No.
My sister’s feelings that men are being attacked by my friend and that endangers someone in her family are super weird boundary problems that are unlikely to ever be resolved in any kind of direct fashion. But taking a weekend off to have IRL fun helps. If you have a loved one who occasionally completely loses the plot, encourage them to go have fun in a nearby state, AFK. It’ll be good for everyone, but especially them.
I slept for a while, but then woke up and was really feeling very hot (this happens sometimes when I have a couple drinks and a meal with a lot of protein— I get really, really thermogenic). Since I’d slept in pretty late and wasn’t really short on sleep overall, I figured I’d just read for a while, which was honestly extremely blissful. I did eventually get several more hours of sleep — yes, I’m sure that my circadian rhythm at this point is well and truly fucked — and woke up feeling pretty good. I got some breakfast, and fed A. some too, and then I decided to do a little poking around on the topic of 80s era bulletin boards. NO not Compuserve or Prodigy. The ones made of actual cork, that people cut out Farside from the newspaper and put up using push pins or tacks.
I’m interested in this, because I was trying to explain memeposting and/or shitposting and why people do it. Why was I trying to explain this? Because for the second time (at least) in my life, my sister had developed a parasocial relationship online with one of my friends and then gotten mad at the friend. The first time she did this, she called the school where my friend worked and reported my friend for what she had been posting on social media. My friend’s boss knew exactly what she was doing, and my friend was not breaking any rules (I became a temporary, mini-expert on FERPA at the time) so my friend was fine, but I was horrified. When I realized this was ramping up again with a different friend, I decided to try to first warn the friend (who has had randos online go weird at her before; this is not her first rodeo) and then try to understand what was going on with my sister. (The friend has adjusted her social media settings WRT my sister in a way that should reduce everyone’s risk of bad behavior, and has been extremely gracious about the whole thing.)
With my sister, the issue seems to have been a straightforward combination of the changing of the seasons and overwork, and is improving as she has taken a weekend to go have some IRL fun. But as I spoke to her before the weekend, I explained that what the friend was doing was memeposting / shitposting, and my sister’s response to engage with the reposted post-and-comments about C. S. Lewis and the Susan problem was socially extremely inappropriate, and the feelings that the Susan problem and Lewis remarks engendered in my sister for herself and about her children were based on bunch of important misunderstandings. I think my sister believed me about the important misunderstandings (we all know we are autistic, and subject to these types of errors) however I was unsuccessful in answering her question about why do people memepost / shitpost. I compared it to Back in the Day when people cut comics out of newspapers and posted them on corkboards, but she claimed never to have encountered that. That is obviously not possible, however, it is completely probable that she failed to notice the boards (very, very believable that she failed to notice or comprehensively forgot them).
Here is an entertaining little post about The Far Side and those cork boards in particular.
https://www.everything80spodcast.com/the-far-side/
Today, I found this explanation which I think captures at least some of why people memepost / shitpost.
https://racuned.substack.com/p/i-tried-shitposting-for-a-week-and
Basically, boredom leads to shitposting / memeposting, a dopamine hit from people engaging with the meme / shit post rewards having done that, and an awareness that this is a relatively easy way to grow an audience results in more directed effort to shit post / meme post “better”. It’s just like being the class clown.
But hilariously, at no point in this entire process did it occur to me to point out, uh, hey, you understand why the online forums were originally called “bbs” or “bulletin board system”, right? I mean, it’s just like those fucking cork boards.
Which she ignored.
Which she forgot.
Which she is participating in now, in kind of the same way that people back in the day would occasionally post on the cork board a detailed debunking of whatever urban legend someone had photocopied and tacked up.
Was Lewis queer? Oh, hell yeah. Did he have good / any / positive relationships with women? Evidence suggests otherwise. Is “attacking” Lewis for how he treated the Susan character in Narnia attacking queer people generally, or attacking “men” as a category? No. Is my friend posting memes and shit posts about toxic masculinity a generalized attack on “men” or “masculinity”? No.
My sister’s feelings that men are being attacked by my friend and that endangers someone in her family are super weird boundary problems that are unlikely to ever be resolved in any kind of direct fashion. But taking a weekend off to have IRL fun helps. If you have a loved one who occasionally completely loses the plot, encourage them to go have fun in a nearby state, AFK. It’ll be good for everyone, but especially them.