Sunday is cool and mostly quiet
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walkitoutI pulled some more stuff out of the bins in the garage that haven’t yet made it to Savers and listed them. Things seem to leave faster that way. Also, some stuff wound up going into the trash (really beat up DVDs / CDs type thing). I’m planning on bringing a bag of clothes to the bin, but somehow have not yet gotten around to it.
I watched Friday’s Murderbot with A. We fastfowarded through the surgery parts because ugh.
I had a long phone conversation with H. about all the stuff that I had not been getting updates on about Aunt C. It sounds like things are actually going really well over there, but of course with a home visit coming up to see if she can go safely to her home, H. is very anxious. They are telling H. she doesn’t need to be there, and honestly it would probably be better if she was not. But H. has stayed in contact with C. by going along with and believing all of C.’s rules, and we’re at that moment where the rules are probably going to have to change and none of that feels good on any level.
H. really had it in her head that she had to be out of that house 10 days before C. returned home, for quarantine purposes, which is insane, because C.’s in a care home, and people willing be coming to C.’s home to provide care if she indeed moves back in. The ability to diligently try to follow that many wildly incompatible rules is … I don’t know what it is. It gives me a headache thinking about it.
Also, C. apparently is on 58 medications, and somehow the problem is managing the medications, not getting off as many of them as humanly possible. I think MIL had a problem. This sounds so much worse.
I made granola. I roasted peanuts. I made peanut butter.
I walked with M.
I watched Friday’s Murderbot with A. We fastfowarded through the surgery parts because ugh.
I had a long phone conversation with H. about all the stuff that I had not been getting updates on about Aunt C. It sounds like things are actually going really well over there, but of course with a home visit coming up to see if she can go safely to her home, H. is very anxious. They are telling H. she doesn’t need to be there, and honestly it would probably be better if she was not. But H. has stayed in contact with C. by going along with and believing all of C.’s rules, and we’re at that moment where the rules are probably going to have to change and none of that feels good on any level.
H. really had it in her head that she had to be out of that house 10 days before C. returned home, for quarantine purposes, which is insane, because C.’s in a care home, and people willing be coming to C.’s home to provide care if she indeed moves back in. The ability to diligently try to follow that many wildly incompatible rules is … I don’t know what it is. It gives me a headache thinking about it.
Also, C. apparently is on 58 medications, and somehow the problem is managing the medications, not getting off as many of them as humanly possible. I think MIL had a problem. This sounds so much worse.
I made granola. I roasted peanuts. I made peanut butter.
I walked with M.
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Date: 2025-06-15 08:06 pm (UTC)Not as far as I know, but I don’t have any specific data
Date: 2025-06-16 02:34 am (UTC)I did not typo. It really was told to me as fifty-eight. I cross-checked with a doctor in-law, asking for calibration of 58 in terms of polypharmacy, and he said that was 4X the threshold of concern. Dr. in-law also shared that MIL has taken herself out of medication management at the care home.
During family zoom, MIL was suggesting that C. try divvydose, and C. said it wouldn’t work for her for a whole bunch of reasons that were a misunderstanding of divvydose, and summed up with, “I’m sure it’s fine for you, Big Sister, because your situation is much simpler”. It was the most gobsmacking moment ever for me, because I suddenly realized that C. is doing what C is doing at least in part as a way of one-upping MIL / her big sis. I eventually said, I’m not trying to convince you C., but divvydose will actually do [list of things C. thought it would not] and MIL confirmed what I was saying. C. then resorted to, “the mail doesn’t consistently arrive at my house”, and finally conceded that she’d look into divvydose. Somewhere in there MIL shared that she was taking metformin. I didn’t ask, and neither should anyone else, altho it tracks with MIL’s increasingly gaunt-looking face.
I had previously wondered if maybe C.’s fall down the stairs had been an attempt to reproduce MIL repeatedly hurling herself at the ground until she moved to the care home, in the hopes of perhaps getting into a care home herself. Further evidence was not desired, at least not by me.
I think that divvydose offers the lovely feature of making it much harder to accidentally double or triple dose oneself. For that reason alone, I strongly encourage anyone struggling to manage their medications to look into it.