Wednesday involved a lot of giving
Dec. 10th, 2025 09:58 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
walkitoutI brought the photo mailer to the post office and sent it off. I dropped off the cards at the same time. I bought some more stamps, and added another card to the mailbox. I did the vast majority of the charitable giving. I bought some stuff for my niblings.
That was great, but definitely time consuming. And before I got to that, I had a phone call with JP that was okay, but he really wanted to talk about upcoming travel plans, and I had done the work but put off documenting it in an orderly way and sharing it with the 10 people who will be traveling with me until after I got through all the holiday gift giving. It was really stressful having to try to think about all the travel stuff I have very consciously been NOT thinking about, while in the middle of getting through the big giving projects. To be completely clear, I tried repeatedly to talk about literally anything else other than this, and I specifically told JP that I would be getting to this on Saturday. But nope, he BOTH disclaimed that he was pushing this as a priority and also would not talk about anything else.
By the time I was off the phone, R. was trying to figure out why he was no longer able to access Prime shipping through my Prime (he was an invitee, he is a Family member, but it’s not working and it’s probably because T. is also a Family member and the “solution” is to remove both and re-add just R.). The reason why he was attempting to send something using Prime was to get me a holiday present off my wish list. I had punted on removing everything from my wish list, because everything else seemed more important, but boy, it just became the hot item. So I removed everything from my wish list, told R. to NOT buy me what he was trying to buy me, and tried to figure out why it was not working. Total failure, and also that disrupted my efforts to get lunch. So it was now 2:30 pm, and nothing since breakfast and a delayed walk impending.
My walking partner arrived and I flipped our visit so I could eat. Her mother, who is dying of cancer, has been hospitalized but not for the cancer (directly) but rather from the psychological repercussions of all of that and/or the medication she’s on. Absolutely harrowing all around.
Somewhere in there, T. called because he sent me stuff, then deleted it, then wanted copies, and he’d even deleted it from his sent mail. So we’ve had some conversations about record keeping. I finally just started explaining to him why I’m so stressed out right now, and he actually was pretty good about it.
After our walk, I sat down and did a bunch of the giving stuff, and it felt really good to get through that process. I eventually retrieved A. from therapy (after carefully prepping her to be ready for pickup by R. for the first time on time to therapy in many months) and we had a nice dinner at West Village Tavern.
A. and I picked out a possible drapery rod for her future bedroom. That felt like a major accomplishment somehow. I also found some really nice hand forged rods for the upstairs hall and the tab tops that are currently in the dining room.
That was great, but definitely time consuming. And before I got to that, I had a phone call with JP that was okay, but he really wanted to talk about upcoming travel plans, and I had done the work but put off documenting it in an orderly way and sharing it with the 10 people who will be traveling with me until after I got through all the holiday gift giving. It was really stressful having to try to think about all the travel stuff I have very consciously been NOT thinking about, while in the middle of getting through the big giving projects. To be completely clear, I tried repeatedly to talk about literally anything else other than this, and I specifically told JP that I would be getting to this on Saturday. But nope, he BOTH disclaimed that he was pushing this as a priority and also would not talk about anything else.
By the time I was off the phone, R. was trying to figure out why he was no longer able to access Prime shipping through my Prime (he was an invitee, he is a Family member, but it’s not working and it’s probably because T. is also a Family member and the “solution” is to remove both and re-add just R.). The reason why he was attempting to send something using Prime was to get me a holiday present off my wish list. I had punted on removing everything from my wish list, because everything else seemed more important, but boy, it just became the hot item. So I removed everything from my wish list, told R. to NOT buy me what he was trying to buy me, and tried to figure out why it was not working. Total failure, and also that disrupted my efforts to get lunch. So it was now 2:30 pm, and nothing since breakfast and a delayed walk impending.
My walking partner arrived and I flipped our visit so I could eat. Her mother, who is dying of cancer, has been hospitalized but not for the cancer (directly) but rather from the psychological repercussions of all of that and/or the medication she’s on. Absolutely harrowing all around.
Somewhere in there, T. called because he sent me stuff, then deleted it, then wanted copies, and he’d even deleted it from his sent mail. So we’ve had some conversations about record keeping. I finally just started explaining to him why I’m so stressed out right now, and he actually was pretty good about it.
After our walk, I sat down and did a bunch of the giving stuff, and it felt really good to get through that process. I eventually retrieved A. from therapy (after carefully prepping her to be ready for pickup by R. for the first time on time to therapy in many months) and we had a nice dinner at West Village Tavern.
A. and I picked out a possible drapery rod for her future bedroom. That felt like a major accomplishment somehow. I also found some really nice hand forged rods for the upstairs hall and the tab tops that are currently in the dining room.