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My older sister taught me to play chess, and promptly quit playing me after I started beating her. I ran out of people in my highly constrained social environment who were willing to play against me, and gave it up. A few years later, my friend I. showed me the bookstore her dad ran, which was a small bookstore, general stock, in west Seattle, but which also had a specialty in chess, because her dad was into it. He was — and remains — an absolutely wonderful human being, but nothing about any of that re-inspired me to take up chess. I had an extremely modest interest in following AI efforts relating to chess (and Go, and similar). Extremely. Modest. Mostly, I figured that chess was going to lose to machines once machines could make breadth first search techniques work well enough. And as near as I could tell by my limited reading on the topic, that was more or less how things turned out.

Of course, when you read chess games, they are their own choreographed awesomeness. And that is the peg that Tevis has hung his narrative on. There are some other elements. Our Chess Prodigy is American (pretty implausible), a girl whose parents died in relatively rapid succession and then she wound up in an orphanage, where she finds the janitor playing chess in the basement and pressures him into teaching her how to play. It’s really a wonder to read that section — one does NOT expect things to turn out as well as they did.

It’s an orphanage, and it is in the late 50s / very early 60s, so the kids are being tranked routinely (with their vitamins, it is like Tevis had just read One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest or something); this becomes a bit of a problem for our young chess prodigy.

Oh, and Beth’s best friend at the orphanage, Jolene, is a beautiful black girl who graduates and goes to college and is quite ambitious. She does not reappear after Beth is adopted until Beth needs someone to rescue her from her spiraling problem with booze and pills and no physical activity.

So, adding that all up: we have a mid 80s novel, set a couple decades earlier, about a girl chess prodigy, orphaned, adopted, with a magical negro bestie from the orphanage who pops back into the narrative to whip her into good enough physical shape to survive the sitting for hours at a time while playing chess. Beth does it all pretty much on her own, even giving the finger to the Christian Crusade, but even tho her chess/fuck buddies are left behind in the States as a result, they follow her career and call her up at the last minute with helpful analysis.

Oh and the old guys in the Moscow park playing really high quality chess.

I mean, it’s like Harry Potter, almost. It’s a romp. Based on R.’s description of the Netflix adaptation, it sounds like the adaptation is wicked faithful. If you can cope with the tropes, it is a bunch of fun and a fast read. As you can imagine, based on my first paragraph or two, I have zero opinion whatsoever about the quality of the game playing described or the realism of the descriptions — I basically treated them like I treat a lot of the really detailed descriptions of space battles in milSF, which is to say, okay, you have some sort of narrative point, and that is? Gotcha, moving on now! I’m sure _actual_ chess aficionados had all kinds of Issues then and now.

It will be interesting to hear what people think at book group.

ETA:

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/23/books/walter-tevis-novelist-queens-gambit-netflix.html

This suggests quite strongly that many of the passages that _feel_ like they were written by someone who lived through them probably were quite autobiographical — the narcotics, meeting up with an old friend and reconnecting strongly, feeling disconnected from everyone, the Ohio and Kentucky settings.
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Happy Solstice!

It is the shortest day of the year, so the very best day to spend a really long time sleeping in and/or going to bed early. Or, you know, binge watching whatever you love.

In our house, today is Presents Day. It is a day that we get to rip off a bunch of really pretty paper and see what is inside. While one can of course think of this in terms of consumer excess and still more damage to the environment, I prefer to think of it as an expression of love for those who are close to us, and the gifts themselves as a physical incarnation of our understanding of the values of the giver, the values of the recipient, and where the intersection of those values is actually an affordable item in real life. Our collective angst over consumerism means that there is quite a lot in that intersection! We are a prosperous people, and that is a joyful thing.

Whatever holidays you are currently celebrating, and whatever those holidays mean to you, please partake of the general love, and joy that this day means, has meant and hopefully will mean for thousands of years to come to those who live on this planet.

Or, you know, eye roll and go about your business. That is also fine.
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Once again, the end of one year and the beginning of another.

This year’s project or theme — I can’t really call it a Resolution — was to get better at consistently making a variety of drinks. I did! It was a great project. People hit “like” on my drink pictures on FB. I met fun people at restaurants and bars, and nerded out about amari. I have new favorite things. The people at Colonial Liquors gave me a nickname. The very nice man who runs the place always finds me every single thing I ask him to order for me. It feels in a lot of ways like it used to feel, haunting used book stores to complete a series and talking books with people.

Food Waste was in the news this year, and I fought really hard to not let it influence me, just as I once did with the locavore trend. I failed. I discovered that it is actually worth zesting limes and grating ginger. I discovered the joy of finely chopped cilantro stems. I also learned (some of) which friends have the gene that makes cilantro taste evil, so I don’t inflict that on them.

This year contained the 20th anniversary of retirement for me (I’m going to pretend that all paid employment after I quit full time employment Does Not Count). I didn’t throw a party; I’m very bad at figuring out what people will think of various things I say or do, but even I can tell that throwing a party for that milestone is not going to increase the totality of love and friendship in one’s life.

We went to national parks. My son went to summer camp.

I gave a lot of money (from my perspective) to political campaigns in the midterms.

I was adjacent to the most expensive auto repair I’ve ever been near in my entire life (warranty, hence, “adjacent”). I still love the car involved.

Obviously, I wish everyone happiness, good health and things of that nature in the next year.

Here are some specifics that I am going to put out there, for the Universe — and my very limited readership — to contemplate.

Tell the people that you love, that you love them. Then tell them your other, potentially less attractive, but still important, feelings. Remind them that you love them. And if appropriate and if you can, move into a problem solving mode from there.

If you have been waiting a long time to do something, figure out if you can just fucking start already. If you can’t — valid, and full support! — identify when you _can_ start, as in, a date certain, put it in your tickler file equivalent (this could be a project, too! But if not, you could get a tattoo) and go do other things, sure in the knowledge that That Day Will Come.

Finally, and I think this might be the most important thing for _me_ to remember, as next year will be the year I turn 50:

Everyone is going to die some day. The Elder God Murphy dictates that of course many of those who die young are those we feel great affection for (and there is some kind of opposite of that which is also true). So. Back to points 1 and 2: tell the people you love how you feel. Do what you want — and start soon.

Good luck out there and stay safe. 2019 might be a bumpy ride. If the past is any guide at all.
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As I'm sure my regular readers have figured out, we were Away. I will update the blog in the New Year with postdated entries for our recent trip to the DC area to spend the holidays with family from both sides of the family (mine and R.'s). Traffic on the 22nd and on the 31st (today) was a lubricated dream compared to T-weekend's horror show. Also, we had a really good time.

I know a lot of people are happy to see the end of 2016. I think it would be wrong to believe that 2017 will not bring sad moments and losses of the sort that characterized 2016. But here is what I wish for all of us. Let us use the still-new day-to-day connectedness of social media to share our joys and sorrows, our ups and downs, and feel all that burning intensity, while recognizing that all that pain and all that euphoria is actually the same pain and euphoria of the Ancient World before social media. It's just that we are recording it and sharing it.

May we come to feel our increasing connectedness through a lens of acceptance, and find a way to surf through the joys and sadness that are with us every day of our lives.

Also, perhaps dial back on the outrage.

Just a bit.

In favor of meaningful actions in support of our hopes and dreams.

ETA: T. would like me to add that we stopped at McDonald's for lunch. We stopped at Applebee's in Hudson for dinner.
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I have no idea whether I'll get time to post again or how much.

We had a nice year, including some great travel to Disney and to the Netherlands where we visited extended family and went to Efteling. We also went to the Cape with family. The kids continue to enjoy swimming. T. is almost good enough to be allowed to use the diving board/well without someone being in the water with him.

By hiring someone else (many thanks to D!) to do all the actual work, the inside of our house is now completely painted. It previously only had builders' paint -- when the walls got marked up, there was no way to clean them. Now, in addition to happy colors in every room (and two closets), we can clean marks off the wall. It's the little things that count. Also, the front door is now purple! It matches my hair.

T. is starting to sight read, and spends a lot of time asking people to spell words for him. We've started turning the questions around on him, and he can spell some words out loud ("day" was one of the first).

We enjoyed a big Thanksgiving dinner at R.'s sister's house: 17 people, if I counted correctly. Everyone was so nice to the kids, and the kids had a really good time. They even sat (briefly) at the dinner table. It's so nice that they can both talk to their extended family and enjoy doing so, and so rewarding that the extended family has remained patient and connected to enjoy this as well.

T. has developed some new social routines. He particularly enjoys his good night call with his Aunt, Uncle and 2 cousins. Because we often vacation together, they are close in age, and have many character traits and interests in common, T., A. and their cousins are building friendly relationships that we hope will last for decades to come.

I continue to walk most days of the week with my walking partner, and every year that goes by I am more thankful to have her in my life. She always finds a way to say in a few words what I somehow cannot manage to get across even in many. I am also thankful for my (ex-)girlfriend/High Priestess R.'s continued presence in my life, and her willingness to share her adventures with me so I can live a little bit vicariously in her continuous search for (more) wisdom and joy. My sister R. has been a wonderful emotional support and sanity check for me, when unexpected things happen, particularly when they involve the school system or health care providers.

We are looking forward to next year. R. and I will celebrate 10 years of marriage, 50 years of life for him and 45 for me.

And I want to thank everyone who reads this blog, here or on FB, and maintains contact (however distant) with me, despite my many moves and generally not-very-sociable nature. Your interest in what I think about and write about is always valued by me -- even if what I express comes out as cantankerous. Thanks for being willing to try to understand what I meant.
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T. turned five this year, but continues to attend A-B Preschool. We expect to start his transition to kindergarten sometime in January/February. We're all expecting him to attend C. Elementary school in our town. There's a good autism program at that school, and while he has a stable diagnosis, he is doing really well in a lot of ways and no one thinks an out of district placement would be needed. He scored an incredible amount of Halloween candy on our mile walk around the "block". He loves playing games on the iPad and watching short teletubbies and Mickey Mouse videos on the computers. He loves this so much, he's decided he wants to learn how to type in what he wants to watch next, thus learning a few of his letters (which he is also working on at school) and how to use the trackpad.

A. turned two this year. Much like her mother a few decades earlier, A. wasn't talking despite her advanced age and was getting increasingly frustrated. Unlike her maternal grandmother, I called up Early Intervention and had her assessed. Based on their recommendation, we took her to see the absolutely wonderful in every way Karen Levine, who we recommend highly, and who diagnosed her with autism spectrum disorder. Someday, R. & R. will get around to seeing their own doctors and then we can all officially be on the spectrum. Which we know already.

A. loves the wonderful women who come to see her throughout the week, and so do I, particularly since the way-too-focused-on-adult-agenda service coordinator went away and her service coordination duties were taken over by our OT and her other duties eliminated. T. continues to ride the horse on the weekends, and for a few weeks before it got too cold, A., too, got to enjoy riding a horse. When A. started receiving services, learning to "isolate her index finger" was an important goal, which it turned out the iPad was able to help with. Yay, technology! Hook 'em early, right?

We had some pleasant vacations. At the end of summer, we went to North Conway, where we all enjoyed going on the rides and swimming in the pool. Unfortunately, R. got really, really sick (probably from an overused and undermaintained pool) and had to go to Emerson Hospital shortly after our return to get IV fluids.

About a month later, I woke up feeling really, really sick and after concluding that while it might be the worst gas I'd ever had, it was more likely appendicitis. R. came home to take care of A. and I drove myself to the hospital where they were kind enough to relieve me of my appendix and its associated unpleasantness. Driving was not the best choice, since I was still on pain medication and unable to drive it home. Fortunately, by this point grandma had arrived and rescued us all.

About a month after that (and a week after finding a tick on her hip -- weird place for a tick, and it hadn't started eating yet), I woke up and almost fell down. The vertigo persisted for a while, but a round of prednisone and some dramamine seemed to help and it has not recurred. I was able to go on rides (altho I skipped Soarin' out of ongoing paranoia) at Disneyworld in November.

The children's grandmother, C., was kind enough to join us on our visit to Florida. We had a great time and even got to see Epcot. H. came out for a few hours to visit his sister, which was also nice. T. loves coasters, and A. loves rides that go around and around. Because Dumbo's lines are just obscene, we chose Flying Carpets to go on again and again and again. C. was a tremendously good sport about this. We were very happy to be seeing the Mouse in early November this year; the lines were short and the weather was good.

We decorated a tree this year! It was the first tree of our adult lives. Apparently men living on their own don't typically do trees, and it took me a while to figure out how to do the whole tree thing, having missed out due to being raised a Jehovah's Witness. We put it on a table to keep the kids from knocking it over, and we got led light strings to avoid setting the house on fire.

R. tracked down the mysterious draft coming through our gas fireplace and then, in a fit of winter holiday generosity, fixed the same problem at the neighbors. We are all happy, and less energy is being wasted as a result. Also, he fixed some wiring problems at the same time.

My renters in the condo in Seattle moved out and almost all of my belongings were moved here, where I spent a few weeks sorting through some of them in the basement. I have a new renter, my ex-girlfriend, a completely wonderful woman in every way. She's busy getting all the problems that I could never be bothered to track down and fix ... fixed.

We didn't throw any parties this year; hopefully next year we'll do that again. I have been hiring some additional babysitting to cover a monthly trip up to Mayberrry (<-- not its real name), NH where we used to live to go to book group. It's very nice to have a few hours all to myself in the evening.

We do not have any plans to travel across country in 2011 (maybe in '12), but we do have some other vacation plans coming up in June (North Conway, different resort), August (the Cape) and November (the Mouse, again). If you'd like to coordinate with us, let us know.

I hope 2010 treated all my readers well, and 2011 is even better.

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