![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
walkitoutI went to the dentist. It was uneventful. It was a lovely day for a drive, and I took a slightly longer route and listened to Racing Birds’ EP.
I had a 2 hour phone convo with J.
I had a walk and visit with M.
A. had an incident in current events club. They were apparently talking about the bill in the House to force ByteDance to divest OR for TikTok to be removed from app stores if that divestiture does not happen within 180 days of the bill passing (“the TikTok ban”). There were a bunch of people saying that TikTok and endless scrolling short form video in general “rots your brain”. A. had a pretty significant reaction and didn’t get out of there quick enough and someone called her a crybaby. Once out of there, she expressed not feeling like she was safe for other people to be around.
So, that was a lot.
I picked her up, and got part of the story from the teacher leading the club (she’s great, I have no issues with her). Then I talked to A., and we looked into the history of people saying something “rots your brain”, and how in general, it’s a bit of a conversational red flag. Use that phrase and you are telling on yourself. I pointed out to her that there is nothing shameful in crying, it isn’t weakness but strength and showed her the science on the impact of tears on male aggression on mammalian species.
We headed to therapy, and got a call from the vice principal. I was clear about the limited time and that we were headed to therapy and would be discussing this there. We explored the topic in some detail, and settled on the importance of getting out when she starts to feel hot, and things to do to help re-regulate. We showed the therapist the way-up-high, down-low, out-to-the-side, in front, ball, etc. routine. As expected she completely grasped the idea (she did it with us) and I explained the rationale for why it is the abbreviated thing instead of any of the older, more complex posture sequences that accomplish similar goals. As a result, I plan to show it to the school psychologist and the learning center teacher (same person who runs the club), so that they can share it with the team and prompt A. to do it when it seems helpful.
The vice principal sent email reiterating that there’s a meeting first thing tomorrow in his office. A. is dreading it, so I guess I have to go, but I’m annoyed that at no point in this whole thing did anyone involve R., so we will both be going, we will at least match their numbers, and I will reiterate the importance of involving both parents.
ETA:
I finished the sample of Charlie Jane Anders _Victories Greater Than Death_. It’s extremely readable and fairly involving. Not sure if I’ll commit to reading the series (or even the rest of the book, altho I think if I read the rest of the book I’ll probably be committing to all three).
I had a 2 hour phone convo with J.
I had a walk and visit with M.
A. had an incident in current events club. They were apparently talking about the bill in the House to force ByteDance to divest OR for TikTok to be removed from app stores if that divestiture does not happen within 180 days of the bill passing (“the TikTok ban”). There were a bunch of people saying that TikTok and endless scrolling short form video in general “rots your brain”. A. had a pretty significant reaction and didn’t get out of there quick enough and someone called her a crybaby. Once out of there, she expressed not feeling like she was safe for other people to be around.
So, that was a lot.
I picked her up, and got part of the story from the teacher leading the club (she’s great, I have no issues with her). Then I talked to A., and we looked into the history of people saying something “rots your brain”, and how in general, it’s a bit of a conversational red flag. Use that phrase and you are telling on yourself. I pointed out to her that there is nothing shameful in crying, it isn’t weakness but strength and showed her the science on the impact of tears on male aggression on mammalian species.
We headed to therapy, and got a call from the vice principal. I was clear about the limited time and that we were headed to therapy and would be discussing this there. We explored the topic in some detail, and settled on the importance of getting out when she starts to feel hot, and things to do to help re-regulate. We showed the therapist the way-up-high, down-low, out-to-the-side, in front, ball, etc. routine. As expected she completely grasped the idea (she did it with us) and I explained the rationale for why it is the abbreviated thing instead of any of the older, more complex posture sequences that accomplish similar goals. As a result, I plan to show it to the school psychologist and the learning center teacher (same person who runs the club), so that they can share it with the team and prompt A. to do it when it seems helpful.
The vice principal sent email reiterating that there’s a meeting first thing tomorrow in his office. A. is dreading it, so I guess I have to go, but I’m annoyed that at no point in this whole thing did anyone involve R., so we will both be going, we will at least match their numbers, and I will reiterate the importance of involving both parents.
ETA:
I finished the sample of Charlie Jane Anders _Victories Greater Than Death_. It’s extremely readable and fairly involving. Not sure if I’ll commit to reading the series (or even the rest of the book, altho I think if I read the rest of the book I’ll probably be committing to all three).