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Jul. 5th, 2022 11:23 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
walkitoutTo recap: last Friday, someone who does not normally attend FF showed up, which was a delight initially, because he had some fun travel stories to tell. But then he started saying we should support the police, because some of them are good, and some of them are also appalled by recent SCOTUS decisions. I’m like, no, because I host this thing, I moderate this thing, and most if not all of us have been participating in protests against police in recent years. I mean, come on. It went on for a while, we finally got onto another topic without agreeing with him or letting him think that we were okay with what he was advocating, and then another person thought he had a clever way to resolve the disagreement, brought it back up and we did it again.
To be absolutely clear, as I was with him: we don’t view all police as The Enemy. But also, they have a problem in terms of firing for cause and making sure those who are fired for cause don’t then get hired somewhere else and continue being awful. Until that problem is fixed, by them — we can’t fix it for them, at least, none of the people at the cocktail hour can — we are not supporting them beyond paying taxes which in turn pay for them to do their jobs. There is a _ton_ of space between support and enemy — the various people on the zoom occupy a broad range of that middle ground. And as I kept mentioning, a bunch of us have friends and/or family who are now or who were police officers; it’s not like we’re ignorant or have no direct contact with the group in question.
It took a while to get back off the topic, and by the end I was wishing I’d just booted him off the zoom, and then unfriended him and some other people on FB while I was at it. Which I’m still thinking about doing. I spent Saturday trying to understand what state of the art psychology advice is for interpersonal conflict. Then, Saturday evening, I fired the sitter, because the sitter was texting with my son and then telling him to delete the texts so that I wouldn’t see them.
Sunday and Monday were calm (by comparison, at least). And then Tuesday, a problematic person from my daughter’s school life popped up in my son’s ESY.
I feel like it is sweeps week on the Walkitout Show and I am looking forward to the end of the nonsense. I really _wish_ all this shit was about me, because then I could go, fine, I clearly need to go to therapy and become a better person. But everything about the world right now is telling me that drama is fucking everywhere right now. I’d have to be incredibly narcissistic to think that any of this had anything to do with me at all.
If by some miracle, you are reading this in 2022, and your life is calm, please know that I am so happy for you. Also, make sure none of this rubs off on you.
To be absolutely clear, as I was with him: we don’t view all police as The Enemy. But also, they have a problem in terms of firing for cause and making sure those who are fired for cause don’t then get hired somewhere else and continue being awful. Until that problem is fixed, by them — we can’t fix it for them, at least, none of the people at the cocktail hour can — we are not supporting them beyond paying taxes which in turn pay for them to do their jobs. There is a _ton_ of space between support and enemy — the various people on the zoom occupy a broad range of that middle ground. And as I kept mentioning, a bunch of us have friends and/or family who are now or who were police officers; it’s not like we’re ignorant or have no direct contact with the group in question.
It took a while to get back off the topic, and by the end I was wishing I’d just booted him off the zoom, and then unfriended him and some other people on FB while I was at it. Which I’m still thinking about doing. I spent Saturday trying to understand what state of the art psychology advice is for interpersonal conflict. Then, Saturday evening, I fired the sitter, because the sitter was texting with my son and then telling him to delete the texts so that I wouldn’t see them.
Sunday and Monday were calm (by comparison, at least). And then Tuesday, a problematic person from my daughter’s school life popped up in my son’s ESY.
I feel like it is sweeps week on the Walkitout Show and I am looking forward to the end of the nonsense. I really _wish_ all this shit was about me, because then I could go, fine, I clearly need to go to therapy and become a better person. But everything about the world right now is telling me that drama is fucking everywhere right now. I’d have to be incredibly narcissistic to think that any of this had anything to do with me at all.
If by some miracle, you are reading this in 2022, and your life is calm, please know that I am so happy for you. Also, make sure none of this rubs off on you.