Deferred Decision Making

I've been decluttering lately, so I've been thinking a lot about deferred decision making. Because I've _also_ been thinking a lot about anxiety, and borderline personality disorder the last few months, I have very much backed away from a naive idolatry of decisiveness (turns out that bias to action that so benefits me has some real downsides).

Anyway.

Humans defer decision making. Sometimes, we call that "patience". Sometimes, we call that "procrastination". Sometimes, I call that, "letting it age". Sometimes I call that, "I can't deal with that right now." Sometimes I call that, "I have more important things to do."

So the _exact same_ non-action has many frames. More than I have enumerated, for sure!

I didn't do it then. And later, maybe I wish I had -- or maybe I'm really glad I didn't. And another person might have an arbitrary perspective on the same non-action, at an arbitrarily selected point in time, subject to change with the person selected, the time asked, etc.

That is a whole lot of judgment, wrapped up in commentary on something that didn't actually happen.