Tuesday: lots of phone calls, date night
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walkitoutLots of phone calls! None with K. — she was out shopping for a replacement fridge.
Another family call to the facility in Florida, this one without the BIL who is receiving treatment. Looks like there will be a change of primary therapist. There was an Incident and ongoing conflict between BIL and another person at the facility and they could not get over it, so BIL will be getting a primary therapist who is responsible for running the facility’s anger management group. I spent a bunch of time thinking over what was and was not said during the call. I am starting to _really_ question whether or not borderline is the correct frame to think about him. Histrionic was an interesting take on things, but the antisocial aspect is very attention getting. There are so many people who go through life intimidating others as a way to get what they want. They do not _seem_ to be violent until someone actually says no. And then things go ... sideways. I hate being around that kind of garbage on two legs. I really do. I do not believe in a lot, but I do believe that whatever divinity or deity exists, it lies in ourselves and our connections to each other. We are supposed to problem solve and nurture those connections. Sometimes, problem solving leads to conflict and that is fine. Adversarial relationships can have highly beneficial outcomes. But systematically grooming the closest people in your life to be afraid to say things to you that you do not want to hear is Not Correct. Backing it up with intimidation and following that up with violence is absolutely abhorrent. Violence is not inherently wrong, but violence in _that_ context is horrifying and soul-destroying and evil.
I guess I’ll just keep learning, even if I do not like some of what I am learning.
Great phone call with J.
Phone call with my sister, and a lovely phone call with R.
A.’s office chair was delivered. She is very happy, and I got the purple chair back from her.
I noticed today something metal and pointy sticking out of the back of my wingback armchair. *sigh* I mean, I have had it since the late 1990s and had it reupholstered, so I guess I should just accept this. I took a look around on Circle Furnitures website and found something that should be a nice replacement in their Acton store, on sale so I will see if I can pick it up tomorrow. Then I will debate the merits of attempting to get the chair with the metal bit sticking out repaired, or if I should just give up on it.
Dinner at Rapscallion’s in Acton. I really like eating on their patio. It is far and away my favorite.
Another family call to the facility in Florida, this one without the BIL who is receiving treatment. Looks like there will be a change of primary therapist. There was an Incident and ongoing conflict between BIL and another person at the facility and they could not get over it, so BIL will be getting a primary therapist who is responsible for running the facility’s anger management group. I spent a bunch of time thinking over what was and was not said during the call. I am starting to _really_ question whether or not borderline is the correct frame to think about him. Histrionic was an interesting take on things, but the antisocial aspect is very attention getting. There are so many people who go through life intimidating others as a way to get what they want. They do not _seem_ to be violent until someone actually says no. And then things go ... sideways. I hate being around that kind of garbage on two legs. I really do. I do not believe in a lot, but I do believe that whatever divinity or deity exists, it lies in ourselves and our connections to each other. We are supposed to problem solve and nurture those connections. Sometimes, problem solving leads to conflict and that is fine. Adversarial relationships can have highly beneficial outcomes. But systematically grooming the closest people in your life to be afraid to say things to you that you do not want to hear is Not Correct. Backing it up with intimidation and following that up with violence is absolutely abhorrent. Violence is not inherently wrong, but violence in _that_ context is horrifying and soul-destroying and evil.
I guess I’ll just keep learning, even if I do not like some of what I am learning.
Great phone call with J.
Phone call with my sister, and a lovely phone call with R.
A.’s office chair was delivered. She is very happy, and I got the purple chair back from her.
I noticed today something metal and pointy sticking out of the back of my wingback armchair. *sigh* I mean, I have had it since the late 1990s and had it reupholstered, so I guess I should just accept this. I took a look around on Circle Furnitures website and found something that should be a nice replacement in their Acton store, on sale so I will see if I can pick it up tomorrow. Then I will debate the merits of attempting to get the chair with the metal bit sticking out repaired, or if I should just give up on it.
Dinner at Rapscallion’s in Acton. I really like eating on their patio. It is far and away my favorite.