Transplanting a Seattleite

In the sense that there’s a developmental stage that people are not getting through, I could believe it is true of everyone who does this.

I may do some poking around at some of the phrases you use, however, because it might give a lot of insight. Thanks!

ETA:

I found this:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life/202012/4-red-flags-high-conflict-partner

And absolutely there is a lot of repeating / projecting in that crowd, and there are elements of that in some of the people I’m engaging in conversation with. Maybe it’s a spectrum/continuum? Maybe I’m just in denial and these people are worse off than I think.

But I can’t shake the idea that there’s one or maybe two developmental steps that if they were accomplished, quite a lot of this would go much better. Possibly because I want this to be improve-able if not fix-able.