The Lost Family by Libby Copeland roams over the vast landscape of genetic genealogy circa 2019. It came out in March of 2020. I was at the Silver Unicorn very shortly before the lockdowns and bought a book or two at a school-connected event (some sort of reading) that was very hot and crowded.
https://walkitout.dreamwidth.org/1778498.html
Anyway.
I picked it up again to continue reading today, some years later (I think I have picked it up at least once, maybe twice and then put it down again). I’m most of the way through, and have reached a picture of Phillip Benson (switched at birth with Collins) and his first wife, Esther Abolafia Benson, sitting with their son Kenny.
I cannot stop laughing. I absolutely did not expect to meet a relative-by-marriage in these pages, but it was probably inevitable. When my dad’s first cousin asked me to track down Mrs. Abolafia after my first visit to her, I had no recollection of ever having heard that last name. It’s especially funny showing up here, because Abolafia isn’t even an Ashkenazi Jewish surname (and Ashkenazi Jewish heritage in an Irish family is what started the whole search for the babies swapped at birth), so Philip Benson, supposedly Ashkenazi but actually Irish, first married a Sephardic Jew.
That last name has been the source of so much unexpected for me. The mother-in-law and father-in-law and assorted other relatives of Mrs. Abolafia are buried in the Seattle Sephardic Brotherhood cemetery which makes perfect sense given that last name, but I was trying to identify the plot in the cemetery using an online map when I realized I’d spent the first 24 years of my life across the street from that cemetery. When I reconnected with another cousin after a multi-decade gap, she told me stories of going to that cemetery for one of the burials. I told a good friend who was my next door neighbor for several of those years that story, and she said she worked with an Abolafia for quite a few years.
I’m going to resist the temptation to attempt to trace the connection between Esther Abolafia Benson and my extended family, at least tonight.
ETA:
Apparently — and I just learned this on sep 3 2023 — there are _two_ Sephardic cemeteries very close to where I grew up and I misunderstood which one the Abolofias are buried in. It isn’t the one across the street from where I grew up, but rather a few blocks over. Oh well!
https://walkitout.dreamwidth.org/1778498.html
Anyway.
I picked it up again to continue reading today, some years later (I think I have picked it up at least once, maybe twice and then put it down again). I’m most of the way through, and have reached a picture of Phillip Benson (switched at birth with Collins) and his first wife, Esther Abolafia Benson, sitting with their son Kenny.
I cannot stop laughing. I absolutely did not expect to meet a relative-by-marriage in these pages, but it was probably inevitable. When my dad’s first cousin asked me to track down Mrs. Abolafia after my first visit to her, I had no recollection of ever having heard that last name. It’s especially funny showing up here, because Abolafia isn’t even an Ashkenazi Jewish surname (and Ashkenazi Jewish heritage in an Irish family is what started the whole search for the babies swapped at birth), so Philip Benson, supposedly Ashkenazi but actually Irish, first married a Sephardic Jew.
That last name has been the source of so much unexpected for me. The mother-in-law and father-in-law and assorted other relatives of Mrs. Abolafia are buried in the Seattle Sephardic Brotherhood cemetery which makes perfect sense given that last name, but I was trying to identify the plot in the cemetery using an online map when I realized I’d spent the first 24 years of my life across the street from that cemetery. When I reconnected with another cousin after a multi-decade gap, she told me stories of going to that cemetery for one of the burials. I told a good friend who was my next door neighbor for several of those years that story, and she said she worked with an Abolafia for quite a few years.
I’m going to resist the temptation to attempt to trace the connection between Esther Abolafia Benson and my extended family, at least tonight.
ETA:
Apparently — and I just learned this on sep 3 2023 — there are _two_ Sephardic cemeteries very close to where I grew up and I misunderstood which one the Abolofias are buried in. It isn’t the one across the street from where I grew up, but rather a few blocks over. Oh well!