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Wednesday: movie, phone call, walks
May. 31st, 2023 10:55 pmI walked with M.
I had a delightful phone conversation with J.
I did about a 2 mile walk by myself while chatting with Priestess.
This was a _great_ conversation. I realized that while I have a pretty detailed understanding of packing everything else, I still have a tendency to bring too much food. When we are driving and staying in a place with a fridge and/or full kitchen, it sort of does not matter, because I can just shove everything into a cooler, unpack it at the destination, and then reverse the process upon returning home. With planes, it is a little trickier. But it’s really bad when I don’t have a kitchen and am operating out of a cooler, especially if the ice supply is poor. So I wanted to talk through how I think about food and why I tend to overdo it so ludicrously.
Planes obviously create an environment of limited food options, and it’s particularly bad for me (because food allergies). Also, food is one of the strategies for helping A. and I deal with being overwhelmed in an environment where we can’t just go somewhere else. Hangry is bad for everyone; it’s really, really bad for us. Whereas for most people, being on a plane may cause stress eating, for me, the prospect of being on a plane causes stress overpacking of food. I don’t actually overeat on the plane; I just bring too much with me.
As we talked about this, I realized that I could pretty easily identify the right amount of food to bring (it’s basically sandwiches for A. and me, and a couple of pieces of fruit for each of us, and then a couple bars like granola bars or date bars for each of us). That takes up a reasonable amount of space, is likely to be eaten sometime in the course of the trip, and is approximately one meal and one snack for each of us. The plane will reliably supply beverages and additional chips type snacks, and we almost always make sure we arrive at the airport 2 or more hours prior to the flight departing, with no baggage to check, and a plan to have a sit-down restaurant meal at the airport. The meal and snack will _only_ be needed if things start going wrong immediately, or go wrong and keep going wrong. Crucially, if I think in these terms, I think I will feel okay with bringing just this amount of food: whenever I wonder about food, I remind myself, hey, I have a meal and a snack just in case. In the event “just in case occurs”, _at that point_, I move to the top of the priority list identifying a way to get another meal in about four hours. It was a _really_ helpful conversation, much more so than Priestess really grasped. I had already worked out _exactly_ what the problem was, and I was groping towards a sort of theory of food packing. She really helped me understand in detail the “but what if” thoughts that generated the ludicrous overpacking of food AND that let me figure out a “if this happens then that” sequence that would feel comfortable to me.
I went to see Guardians of the Galaxy 3. I skipped the Infinity War movies, so I’m definitely missing some things, but I knew that from prior movies I had seen. It was fine. I really liked Mantis and Nebula in this movie.
I really want to see The Little Mermaid ; maybe this weekend coming up.
I had a delightful phone conversation with J.
I did about a 2 mile walk by myself while chatting with Priestess.
This was a _great_ conversation. I realized that while I have a pretty detailed understanding of packing everything else, I still have a tendency to bring too much food. When we are driving and staying in a place with a fridge and/or full kitchen, it sort of does not matter, because I can just shove everything into a cooler, unpack it at the destination, and then reverse the process upon returning home. With planes, it is a little trickier. But it’s really bad when I don’t have a kitchen and am operating out of a cooler, especially if the ice supply is poor. So I wanted to talk through how I think about food and why I tend to overdo it so ludicrously.
Planes obviously create an environment of limited food options, and it’s particularly bad for me (because food allergies). Also, food is one of the strategies for helping A. and I deal with being overwhelmed in an environment where we can’t just go somewhere else. Hangry is bad for everyone; it’s really, really bad for us. Whereas for most people, being on a plane may cause stress eating, for me, the prospect of being on a plane causes stress overpacking of food. I don’t actually overeat on the plane; I just bring too much with me.
As we talked about this, I realized that I could pretty easily identify the right amount of food to bring (it’s basically sandwiches for A. and me, and a couple of pieces of fruit for each of us, and then a couple bars like granola bars or date bars for each of us). That takes up a reasonable amount of space, is likely to be eaten sometime in the course of the trip, and is approximately one meal and one snack for each of us. The plane will reliably supply beverages and additional chips type snacks, and we almost always make sure we arrive at the airport 2 or more hours prior to the flight departing, with no baggage to check, and a plan to have a sit-down restaurant meal at the airport. The meal and snack will _only_ be needed if things start going wrong immediately, or go wrong and keep going wrong. Crucially, if I think in these terms, I think I will feel okay with bringing just this amount of food: whenever I wonder about food, I remind myself, hey, I have a meal and a snack just in case. In the event “just in case occurs”, _at that point_, I move to the top of the priority list identifying a way to get another meal in about four hours. It was a _really_ helpful conversation, much more so than Priestess really grasped. I had already worked out _exactly_ what the problem was, and I was groping towards a sort of theory of food packing. She really helped me understand in detail the “but what if” thoughts that generated the ludicrous overpacking of food AND that let me figure out a “if this happens then that” sequence that would feel comfortable to me.
I went to see Guardians of the Galaxy 3. I skipped the Infinity War movies, so I’m definitely missing some things, but I knew that from prior movies I had seen. It was fine. I really liked Mantis and Nebula in this movie.
I really want to see The Little Mermaid ; maybe this weekend coming up.