Mar. 10th, 2023

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I got an email from Bloomberg saying I was signed up for The Brink. I did not choose this. But since I give Bloomberg a bunch of money every month, I thought I would at least look at the recommended headlines in the sample / first issue / wtf. It was a Businessweek article about the history of mid-life crises. OK, sure, fine. Lots of men, but also, some awareness of men. And then Sarah Knight, the author of the Lifechanging magic of not giving a fuck or whatever, which is a moderately entertaining book that might be worth your time gets a couple paragraphs.

“Sarah Knight, the New York Times bestselling author of a series of manuals such as The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, suggests we think of our time, energy and money as emotional cash and create a “f--- budget” around them. “Spend your ‘f--- bucks’ on things and people that make you happy—or at least on those that serve you in some way. And decline to spend them on stuff that doesn’t,” she says.

Replace “Yeah, sure!” with “I’ll think about it and get back to you!” Stop thinking you need to justify declining an invitation, date or job offer. You don’t owe anyone an explanation beyond “No thank you.” Don’t worry so much about being perceived as nice: “If you’re honest and polite, you’ve done nothing wrong,” Knight says.”

So. She writes a book with F*ck in the title. And then says, “If you’re honest and polite, you’ve done nothing wrong.”

*sigh*

You don’t have to be honest when you are saying no.

You don’t have to be polite when you are saying no.

You can say no by ghosting.

Permission Fairy says it is more important to make that no stick than honesty, politeness or _even being present and saying it_. If no needs to happen, just make it happen, any way you can. And _yes_, I have thought about the implications of that. Escalate if you need to; generally, you won’t need to.

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