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Administrivia: We’re back! We ate. We drank. We rode.
Trip reports will ensue, hopefully soon.
Really great trip in a bunch of different ways. This might be the first vacation I went on where I came back feeling like I didn’t really need to post mortem anything.
Obviously, in my relentless application of problem solving skills in the service of exerting less future effort, I am mulling over a variety of things. I was reading Fair Play and pissing and moaning about it — probably unfairly to its author — NOT because I think my or anyone else’s marriage or family needs any improvement (whatever, that’s on you, hard pass from me) but because I’m looking for a way to “fairly” allocate the work of maintaining a large, shared household. If you’ve participated in a group household that did a good job of allocating this work, please feel free to share your nostalgic stories in the comments or by dm’ing me or emailing me or whatever. If it was a shitshow, but you think about trying again with a new system, and you point to or describe that, I’m mildly interested in that as well. I am 100% aware of the gender imbalance in this particular activity; you don’t need to remind me of that, but if you want to meet up some time and trash talk Lane, Alcott and the other men who participated in Fruitlands, I’m generally up for that.
I’ll probably take a look at what the live-together poly community is doing, and also at cohousing / podhousing approaches; that’s pretty low on my list because I’m not optimistic about what I will find there.
ETA:
I made reservations and bought tickets for RavenCon. Woot!
I found a 15 year retrospective piece about the cohousing community here in town, written by a lawyer / mediator. LOL. And yes, they continue to struggle with allocating work that needs to be done in common areas.
I walked with M.
I made apple crisp.
T. came over to open a package. I wound up feeding him pasta and sauce out of a jar, because nothing is open on NYD. Which is fine. I made a bacon salad sandwich for lunch and I had chopped veg in red sauce (I found a bag of frozen stewed tomatos in the freezer). I’d thawed a steak the day before in the fridge, so R. and A. had that. We’ll probably get to the grocery store tomorrow, but it just didn’t seem worth the bother to find an open one today.
Really great trip in a bunch of different ways. This might be the first vacation I went on where I came back feeling like I didn’t really need to post mortem anything.
Obviously, in my relentless application of problem solving skills in the service of exerting less future effort, I am mulling over a variety of things. I was reading Fair Play and pissing and moaning about it — probably unfairly to its author — NOT because I think my or anyone else’s marriage or family needs any improvement (whatever, that’s on you, hard pass from me) but because I’m looking for a way to “fairly” allocate the work of maintaining a large, shared household. If you’ve participated in a group household that did a good job of allocating this work, please feel free to share your nostalgic stories in the comments or by dm’ing me or emailing me or whatever. If it was a shitshow, but you think about trying again with a new system, and you point to or describe that, I’m mildly interested in that as well. I am 100% aware of the gender imbalance in this particular activity; you don’t need to remind me of that, but if you want to meet up some time and trash talk Lane, Alcott and the other men who participated in Fruitlands, I’m generally up for that.
I’ll probably take a look at what the live-together poly community is doing, and also at cohousing / podhousing approaches; that’s pretty low on my list because I’m not optimistic about what I will find there.
ETA:
I made reservations and bought tickets for RavenCon. Woot!
I found a 15 year retrospective piece about the cohousing community here in town, written by a lawyer / mediator. LOL. And yes, they continue to struggle with allocating work that needs to be done in common areas.
I walked with M.
I made apple crisp.
T. came over to open a package. I wound up feeding him pasta and sauce out of a jar, because nothing is open on NYD. Which is fine. I made a bacon salad sandwich for lunch and I had chopped veg in red sauce (I found a bag of frozen stewed tomatos in the freezer). I’d thawed a steak the day before in the fridge, so R. and A. had that. We’ll probably get to the grocery store tomorrow, but it just didn’t seem worth the bother to find an open one today.